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It only gets more painful. But it’s good news.

I thought that the ability to feel more deeply would give me access to solace, that special area reserved for The Feelers.

But as it turns out, I just get more adept at crying and then carrying on.

Cry. Crusade. Repeat.

You know? I know you know. The Feelers. The Connecteds. They always know.

I opened my heart more to let you in, and then I noticed so many people in line behind you, wanting an embrace.
The more love that I brought down through my cells, the more lesions surfaced on my own skin.

The more light I transmitted, the more darkness I saw.

The more I connected, the lonelier I felt.
The more I gave, the more they tried to take.
The more faith I generated, the more I questioned: What the fuck is going on here?

Where I wept only for myself, now I weep for all of us and the Earth herself. Often.

And not everyone weeps. And this is part of the problem.

No weeping, no cleansing. No cleansing, no clarity. No clarity, no solutions. No solutions, no union. No union, no pleasure.

So I’m going to keep crying about the state of things.
Because that same pain is where I find the most power and inexplicable, unrelenting joy
This is my love affair with the Light and the darkness that she contends with.
I am so in Love.
It makes me cry every kind of tear.


For your fellow Connecteds and Feelers…press forward. xo.

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The more light I transmitted, the more darkness I saw.

No weeping, no cleansing. No cleansing, no clarity. No clarity, no solutions. No solutions, no union. No union, no pleasure.

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ARE YOU READY TO FORGIVE? The complicated, gritty path to grace.


It’s complex. It’s confusing. It’s deeply particular. It’s the through-line of most mystical teachings:


I’m a “Forgiveness Aspirant.” I’m just as good at holding a grudge as I am at letting it go, but for the most part, I want to be as gracious as possible, and I really do believe that forgiveness is the primary Light source of an illumined existence.

That said, choosing—at a critical moment—not to forgive was one of the most spiritual, Soul-affirming acts of my life.

For me, divorce was like having my bones broken very, very slowly, one limb after the next, and then each rib—which made it difficult to breathe for a long time. It was brutal. It didn’t matter that I was the one walking away. I had to crawl my way back into the Light. The dismantling of the marriage agreement itself was very civilized and straightforward. But I had no idea that the real work had just begun. You can’t move on to a new life until you unpack the old one—or burn it down to the ground.

So, I unpacked. I also torched, and past-life-regressed, and journaled, and therapized, and danced, and raged, and grieved, and owned my way through every inch of the journey. I had to go back and do some of it over again, just to make sure it was out of my system. I was not going to take the past into my future. I held up each memory and emotion to surmise: is this a Truth or is this a lie? I was extremely thorough. And when my work was done, which took way longer than I would have preferred, I had become one of those rebirthed, empowered woman clichés. All I could say when asked was, “I’m better than ever. Like, better than ever.”

Toward the end of that long trip, I was working with an exquisite healer—she’s a total energy ninja. We were working on getting my adrenals back in shape. Cutting some energy cords, putting some astral protection into place…you know, the usual. I’d had a series of disturbing dreams that week, indicators of “intrusions,” you could say. I was ready to analyze them, up my frankincense oil intake, chant some Durga mantras, and keep on keeping on.

At the end of a text exchange we were having about the effects of Light meditation on the nervous system, this Lady Ninja of the Light wrote, “D, you have to forgive him.” My face flushed with heat and my stomach sank. It wasn’t what I was expecting to hear. I’d come so far. My life was beginning to shimmer. My money was mine, I was back in my body, my heart was lush with Love and gratitude. So much of my reinvention had been about reckoning and validating my sanity for all the times that I’d thought I was crazy. I was finally seeing clearly. I had boundaries in place. I was over it.

I read that sentence over three times. “D, you have to forgive him.” Then I burst into hot, panicked tears. I’d been calm just moments before. Now I was frantic. Because here’s what I heard echoing inside of the words “forgive him”:

“Dismantle your boundaries, make yourself wrong, admit to things you never did so everyone thinks you’re nicer and saner than you may appear, let him back into your heart, and effectively dissolve your last few years of intense self-scrutiny and resurrection. And while you’re at it, let him into your house, be friendly, be a progressive family unit, and for God’s sake, smile more—because that is what it means to be a truly spiritual person, Danielle.”

At least that’s how I interpreted it.

My phone rang. (Lady Ninja of the Light is so tuned in that she could feel my panic across the country.) I didn’t bother to compose myself before I answered. I just received the call and wept into the phone.

Let me pause here and say that this ninja healer is one of the most cherished beings in my life. When I figure out one of the esoteric riddles she gives me, I feel accomplished. I want to continue learning from her as long as I can. Her respect matters to me—a lot.

She listened gently on the other end of the line as I cried and cried.

After a minute or so, she said, “D?”

I felt like I was in a movie version of an ancient Greek myth. I was the sweaty protagonist, sword in hand, tired as hell, trying to stay alive in a succession of tests. Do I go left down the maze, or right? Do I scale the wall, or do I accept defeat?

I took a stuttered but full inhale because in that moment, I knew which way I was going to go. I also knew that my beloved mentor would see me as an unfit spiritual student, and our time together would come to an end.

“I’m sorry,” I broke the silence. “But I just can’t do it.” Long pause. “I can’t forgive if it means letting him back into my heart. I’ve come too far.” Silence. What I was thinking was, I know you think I’m a loser, but I really have no choice. Thank you for working with me; you can break up with me now.

I wanted to be spiritually respectable, but I just couldn’t care about “evolving” anymore. For once, I was only exactly where I was. No aspiration, all acceptance. My knowing was coursing through my body; it felt impossibly wrong to abandon it. So there I stood, with my inconvenient Truth. I don’t think I’ve ever been as human as I was in that moment.

And then Lady Light burst out laughing her oh, honey-child kind of laugh. “Oh, God no! You do not have to give him the time of day. Ever again. Noooo. Just forgive his SOUL!” She laughed some more. “It’s actually the hardest work to do—because that’s what’s real.”

“So don’t let down my guard?” I said, all snuffly and hopeful.

“Nope. Please don’t.”

“Forgive his Soul?” I confirmed.

“Yep. The biggest thing there is.”

“Oh! Well I can do THAT! I’m halfway there!”

“You’re way more than halfway there. This is the finish line,” she affirmed.

“Well, that’s all you needed to say!” Then we laughed that awesome post-sobbing, post-skill-testing-question, full-bodied woman laugh. Sweet relief! I was going to stay the course:

Keep it real, aim high, do the divine work.

Of course, it wasn’t quite that easy—the actual forgiveness practice of my Soul addressing his was profoundly painful at times. But it didn’t last long. At that stage, it was like removing slivers instead of cracking bones.

I sat in meditation, and over the course of many months, I streamed Light and Love to his Higher Self. I pictured him standing directly in front of me and I gazed at him with total kindness. If that felt too close for comfort on that day, then I’d just imagine him as a Light form of pure energy. I allowed his Soul to come near to mine again. I let myself adore who he truly is. And I thanked him, over and over again, for participating in our agreement to play out what we did in this lifetime. I took it a step further and extended the same gratitude to all of the people in his life. I prayed for their well-being. I cherished his very Soul. Completely.

By honouring my humanity, I got fuller access to my divine power. On Earth, in the day-to-day, my boundaries stayed very much intact. And I moved forward much more freely, navigating with a lighter heart.

This is a peek-a-boo from my new book love, White Hot Truth, Chapter 9: READY TO FORGIVE. You can read or listen to the entire chapter free by clicking HERE.

Most of us have a forgiveness story we’re in the midst of unravelling. Send this to someone who needs to give themselves a break, or give up their grudge. xo.

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Keep it real, aim high, do the divine work.

Forgiveness can be a swift recovery, or not arrive until a generation later.

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Why positive thinking might be leading us in the wrong direction.



Deep positivity.
If there could be a slogan for manifestation theory, this would be it:
Energy follows thought. Energy follows thought. Energy follows thought. And by the way…energy follows thought.

Manifestation happens from the mind.

For it to work effectively, you must achieve clarity of desire, root into the depths of positivity, fend off doubts with Faith, and repeat. Every minute of every day, give or take. If you let your mind wander unattended into heavier thought-forms, like fear, or lack, or mistrust, then you’ll likely hatch all sorts of chaos and attendant anxiety about that chaos. Notice I said “let your mind wander unattended.” Because, inevitably, all kinds of negativity will cross your mind. If you’re paying attention to that inner dialogue, you can redirect the conversation. If you train your mind to focus on “brighter” thought-forms (like courage, trust, kindness, abundance, one’s right to joy), then you’ll manifest more of those feelings, thoughts, and experiences.

Since energy follows thought, obviously, we want to keep our thinking—especially with respect to our creating our future—as “positive” as possible. But this is nowhere close to easy to do. It’s intense work. Doubts will surface, mental garbage from our past will churn up, our daily life will still include bills to pay, relationships to nurture. Returning to positivity, consistently, can be the hardest thing ever. And the best. And the hardest. Is staying consistently positive even possible? Yes. But it might not be what you think.

Let’s break down “positive-think,” because this is precisely where most manifestation techniques mess with our heads. Positive-think might suggest that it can make the bad things vanish. But “bad things” in life usually require some confrontation and management from our side. What’s really problematic with positive-think is that we’re being trained to use it solely to try to get what we want. This is shallow positivity. Stay with me. We need to be positive for multiple reasons: because it alleviates suffering, because it’s good for our health, because it’s a form of kindness.

If we’re “thinking positive thoughts” just to manifest what’s on our vision board, then what happens when we don’t get what we want? We crash into negative thinking. Positive thinking has to be rooted in the heart, not in the attainment of stuff. We need to go much deeper.


Deep positivity means that you have Faith that you’ll be okay, no matter what happens.

Not if it all works out for you in the end.
if you get what you want when you think you should get it. No matter what.
Deep positivity knows that Life will have your back even when you don’t manifest what you want.

Let your energy follow that thought.

This is a peek-a-boo from my new book love, White Hot Truth, Chapter 17: DESIRE, REFINED. You can read or listen to the entire chapter free by clicking HERE.


And THEN…join me for lunch on Facebook Live tomorrow HERE at [12pm PT/ 3pm ET] We’ll break down “positive-think”, get rooted in the heart and go deep on the clarity of desire. And I’ll do a Q&A!

Cheer on your friend. More…positively. But mo’ deep. Press forward.

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Deep positivity means that you have Faith that you’ll be okay, no matter what happens.

Energy follows thought. Energy follows thought. And by the way…energy follows thought.

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